Do What You Love and You’ll Never Work Another Day In Your Life Is A Lie


I’m sure you’ve heard the Confucius quote: “Do what you love and you’ll never work another day in your life.”

Well, that’s a bunch of hooey!

Greg, language! I thought this was a family-friendly website. And, I’m a little surprised. Aren’t you always telling us to follow our Passionate Purpose and do work we love?

Yes, and I stick by that. I’m an optimist. I’m a glass is half-full guy (preferably with Boulevard Wheat beer). It’s a lot better to work at something you love than to work at something you hate. It’s a great idea to follow your Passionate Purpose in your career.

But, I’m also a realist. No matter how much you love your work, it’s still work. There is something in every job that’s a pain. I don’t want people to give up on something because it still feels like work, 0r they don’t like some parts of what they’re doing.

Here’s what I mean. Let’s say you love playing guitar and singing. Your dream job would be the lead singer in a rock band. Then, imagine you get the gig. Awesome! You never work another day in your life, right? Not exactly.

You need to write songs, rehearse, play small gigs, record an album, rehearse some more, promote the album, go on tour, deal with other band members…

Even if your band becomes a huge success do you think you’d never get tired of the travel and time away from family and friends? Think you’d ever get tired of playing the same songs night after night? Think someone in the band might really start to get on your nerves? Have you ever watched, VH1 Behind the Music? Come on!

“Nothing is as important as passion. No matter what you want to do with your life, be passionate.”
– Jon Bon Jovi

I bet LeBron James gets tired of working out and going to practice sometimes, even though he loves playing basketball.

The point is that no matter how much you love something, work is still work. There are good points and bad points to any job.

We need to understand that going in, instead of having this idea that our life will be nothing but rainbows and puppy dogs once we start doing what we love.

Uh, Greg, what if I don’t like puppy dogs?

Dude, I can’t help someone who doesn’t like puppy dogs.

What I advocate is finding your purpose – how you want to make a difference in this world, and your passion – what you love to do, and matching that up with what you’re good at. Then work on ways to serve people and make money doing that.

Then keep working on it and become world class at it. You’ll still have to work, but the work will be a lot more fun.

In Grit, by Angela Duckworth, she says you need four things to stick with your high order, long-term goals. The first one relates to what we’re talking about.

Interest – Without interest in something, you won’t stay with it for the long haul. And it won’t be something you’re passionate about and learn to love.

Passion begins with enjoying what you do. That’s where we start. If you’re not sure, get my free eBook, 5 Steps to Finding Your Purpose. It will walk you through a series of questions that will help you come up with some ideas.

Then you need to pick the one that resonates the most with you and feed that interest. Take action on it. Try things that are related to it. Keep sparking it and see if your interest turns into a passion. If it doesn’t, try another one of your possible passions. Feed that one and see what grows. Keep doing this until you find the one that hits home with you.

A lot of people think there will be some Aha! moment when the Red Sea parts, or they’re struck by lightning, or a booming voice from the heavens says, THIS IS YOUR PASSIONATE PURPOSE. DO THIS FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. This happens for an extremely tiny number of people. The rest of us have to try on a bunch of our different interests and grow our passion. But that doesn’t make it any less real, important, or life changing.

When you’ve grown into your passion, when you know this is what you were meant to do, and you love what you’re doing, your golden, right? Now you’ll never work another day in your life.


What have we been talking about? No matter how much you love your job, it’s still work. Everyone has parts of their job they don’t like. But because you’re doing something you love, you’re enjoying most of the work. You’re enjoying the process of achieving your goals. You know you’re doing something that has meaning and significance and makes a difference. You’re still tired after a hard day of work, but it’s the good kind of tired.

It sure beats doing something you don’t care about, or something you hate. It’s not too late for you to find it and start doing it. Remember, you can start small, try it out, and grow into it. Who knows, it might become your Passionate Purpose and your new career. It might lead to you helping more people than you ever have before. And that might lead to you making more money than you ever have before. That would be a cool bonus wouldn’t it?

It might even help the guy who doesn’t like puppy dogs.

Let’s GO!

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Hey, Thanks for Saying, NO!


“So we went to Atari and said, ‘Hey, we’ve got this amazing thing, even built with some of your parts, and what do you think about funding us? Or we’ll give it to you. We just want to do it. Pay our salary, we’ll come work for you.’ And they said, ‘No.’ So then we went to Hewlett-Packard, and they said, ‘Hey, we don’t need you. You haven’t got through college yet.'”

–Steve Jobs on his attempts to get Atari and HP interested in his and Steve Wozniak’s personal computer.

We’ve all been told NO when we wanted a YES. Rejection stings. It hurts. It sucks…It helps us.

Wait, WHAT?!

Yes, NOs can help us. (hold on, was that sentence confusing?) Here’s what I mean. Imagine if Atari had simply hired the Steves. Would they have become all they became? Would they have done all they have done? Would I be typing this on a Mac today? Would I be talking in potentially gramatically incorrect questions? No way.

Because they were told NO, they had to figure out a way to make their ideas and computers so good that people would have to buy them and the industry couldn’t ignore them.

My oldest daughter, Faith, has been an actress since she was 6 years old. She loves it. But, all the way up through her junior year of high school she had never landed the lead role in any of her shows. She had gotten a lot of NO. It was frustrating for her and there were many teary nights. (Are you sure you want to be an actress, honey? It might be less painful to just hit yourself in the head with a hammer every couple of weeks.)

But she is driven. Faith taught herself tap via Youtube in the unfinished part of our basement. She talked us into getting her voice and dance lessons. She found an extra choir group to join outside of her school. She auditioned for every play she could find. She applied to every modeling/advertising agency in town until one accepted her.

She has worked and practiced HARD to become the actress/singer/dancer she wants to be.

If she had gotten more YES along the way, I don’t think she would have worked as hard. Why practice so much when you’re already getting all the good parts?

I know that’s true because I asked her, “Faith do you think you would be as good of an actress, dancer and singer today if you had gotten lead roles all along the way?” She said, “No way, Dad. I’m way better now. In fact, I’ve gotten better than some of the kids who used to get the lead all the time. While they were coasting, I was working and growing.”

Faith’s hard work paid off. She got the lead in several plays her junior and senior year of high school. She auditioned and was one of only eight students excepted to a very good Bachelor of Fine Arts in Acting program. I have no doubt she can make this into her career.

I also have no doubt that she will face a lot more NOs, and they will continue to make her into the actress she needs to get to hear a lot of YESes.

I had the same experience with no while playing basketball, getting into radio, sales, voice work, and more. Oh, I’ve gotten plenty of NO. I still get plenty of NO. When I let that be the final answer, I’m done. When I look at why I get the NO, and work to get better, I’m often able to turn it into a YES.

What about you? What NO made you better? How can you turn a NO into the motivator to do the work you need to become who you want to be?

The YES you earn will be so very sweet.

Let’s GO!

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How Do I Find My Purpose?


The biggest frustration I hear from people right now is, “How do I find my purpose?” If you don’t get that right, you’re missing the whole point, right? You can act like it doesn’t matter, you can busy yourself with the day-to-day things, and you can even fake happiness for a while. But the question keeps gnawing at you. It keeps scratching at the door like a dog that wants in. It keeps throwing pebbles on your window like a boyfriend trying to get your attention.

Some people try to ignore it their whole lives because thinking and doing something about it is too scary and hard. But it will not be ignored without negative, soul-crushing consequences.

You don’t want to ignore it. You have this feeling deep inside that you were made for something better. You realize this is it. This is your life – right now. You don’t get a dress rehearsal or a do-over. You get one shot and it’s not going the way you want it to go right now. You were supposed to be somewhere else by this time in your life. You want more – more meaning, more significance. You can’t stand the idea of being average, mediocre or just getting by.

I’ve got so much to say about this, I could write a book on it. Oh, wait. I did. You can get my book, GO! by clicking here. You can get the companion workbook, 5 Steps to Finding Your Purpose, as a free eBook by clicking here.

But I want to add to that as well. So, I’m going to write a series of posts over the next few weeks to help you find your Passionate Purpose and then a few more about how to pursue it.

We better define what purpose means when we talk about it here.

Purpose – pur·pose: The reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.
–Oxford online dictionary

For me, your purpose is not just your job or career. Your purpose is why you do everything you do. It’s why you’re here taking up space and breathing. (Oh, is that all? No problem. I’ll figure that out on my lunch hour today, Greg. Thanks a lot.)

Hey, I didn’t say it was easy. But it also doesn’t have to be so hard.

Let’s bust some myths.

Myth #1: There is only one way to find your Passionate Purpose

If you’re struggling to find your Passionate Purpose, I get it. I spent years trying to figure it out. (Hey, I still don’t have it completely figured out. Is that ok to admit?)

That’s what I want you to know today. There’s more than one way to find your calling. One way is no more right than any other. It’s what ends up working for you that is your right way.

Some people are struck by lightning when they’re young, they know why they were born and they pursue their passion for the rest of their lives. (I tend to hate these people. Ok, not really hate, I just really wish that had happened to me.)

Others try a bunch of different ideas until something resonates with them. They keep going with it until their desire builds or burns out.

For most of us, we don’t get the Aha! moment. We have some ideas about our purpose, some things that excite us, some ideas we’d like to try, but nothing like a voice from a mountaintop telling us what to do.

And. That’s. Ok.

But if we’re not careful we can spend weeks, months, years, even decades waiting for that Aha! moment. We’ll keep reading books and blogs, watching TED talks, listening to podcasts and buying online courses, and not taking any real action to change our lives.

Get this. For most of us, there is no perfect purpose, idea, career, job, or plan for our lives. The best we can do is go with what resonates with us the most right now. Take action on it. Try it on for size. See how it feels. If a passion for it starts to grow, feed it some more. It might grow to become your Passionate Purpose. If it isn’t doing anything for you, try something else.

Here is one way to start working on it: Ask yourself some questions:

Why do you get up in the morning? Why are you here at all? What do you want to do with the time you have? What difference do you want to make? What do you want to accomplish? With your life? Your family? Your relationships? Who do you want to become? What do you want to be known for?

Those answers will get you started. My free eBook has a ton of questions that can help you drill down deeper on this. From there you can work on how you use your purpose to fuel every part of your life in and out of work.

Maybe you’re like me and you need to spend time searching for your purpose that will lead you to the extraordinary life of your dreams. I spent countless hours thinking introspectively to determine why I was here. I read books, listened to tapes, attended seminars, watched videos, kept journals, and did all kinds of exercises.

That works for me. I put that in the present tense because I continue to work on personal growth. I love learning this stuff. But that’s me, not necessarily you.

You might do best trying a combination of these methods, or something totally different might get you where you want to go.

Even after you think you know what your Passionate Purpose is, you will still take some detours and hit some speed bumps along the way. You might decide to change your mind and pursue something else.

All of this is OK. Walk your own path.

However, some things are the same for all successful people. They know what they want, why they want it, they take consistent action and – even if they stall out for a while – they keep going.

Myth #2: You can only have one Passionate Purpose in your life – ever

Most people have more than one purpose – often more than one at a time – and they change throughout their lives.

I have several purposes right now. My work purpose is: To help as many people as I can find and pursue their purpose so they can live out extraordinary lives and change the world.

That gets me super excited. I want to get up early to do that. I want to help people do that through my books, blog posts, online courses, coaching, videos, and more!

My family purpose is: To unconditionally love and serve my wife and daughters and help them live the extraordinary lives they were created for.

That leads me to spend more time with them and finding ways to help them.

My spiritual purpose is: To develop a deeper relationship with Christ and try to act more like Him.

That leads me to spend more time reading the bible, praying, and looking for ways to serve.

What about you? What purposes get you excited? Please don’t just read this and forget it. Take some time today or this weekend and figure it out.

Action steps:

1) Get my free eBook and spend time this weekend answering the questions to get you started on finding your purpose.

2) From your work answering the questions, take at least one action on a purpose that resonated with you.

3) Let me know how it’s going and ask me any question that pops up by emailing me:

Let’s GO!

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How NOT to Serve Your Customers


You know I’m big on serving your way to success. No matter what business you’re in – no matter if you’re an employee, the boss, or you’re starting up an online venture from your house – overserving your customers and exceeding their expectations is the best way to win.

If your customers are pleasantly surprised at your great product/service and the way you treated them they will go out and tell their friends about it. More people will buy your stuff. Everybody wins. Pretty simple, right?

You’d be surprised how many people don’t understand that.

My family and I went to a beautiful little beach town last weekend. We were hungry and found a cute, small restaurant for lunch. The food was great. The atmosphere was great. But, I will never tell anyone to go there because the service was lousy.

I worked as a waiter in college. Because I know how hard that job can be, and how bad some customers can be, I go out of my way to tip well and be super nice to the wait staff every time I eat out. I flash a big smile. I ask how they are. I’m friendly. I’m respectful. It usually works out great and about 99% of the time I have great service at restaurants.

But our waitress was surly. First, she didn’t want to take our order. (I understand that when it’s busy, but it wasn’t.) Then, she was rude to my wife while she was ordering, and seemed disturbed that my daughter asked some questions about the menu. She was really slow on our drink order. I was thinking, does she realize she’s working for a tip here?

“Being on par in terms of price and quality only gets you into the game. Service wins the game.

Finally, when the check came she had overcharged us by $2.00. When I pointed this out to her she said, “Well, it’s only $2.00.”

Wait, that’s your answer to overcharging a customer?

It’s not about the amount, when you’re wrong you should admit it and fix it for the customer. An apology would have been nice as well. But you could tell she was mad at me for pointing out her mistake. Wow.

I have a hard time understanding why people act that way to the customers who make their business succeed or fail. Did she think her attitude and actions made me want to come back again?

You may not be a waitress, but the way you serve people will determine how successful you become. How do you serve your customers? If you don’t have direct contact with the customers how do you treat your coworkers and your boss? They are your customers. If you overserve them and exceed their expectations the sky is the limit.

Action Steps:

  1. Get clear on who your customers are.
  2. Brainstorm how you can overserve them and exceed their expectations.
  3. Try out some of those ideas on your customers and build on the ones that get the best responses.
  4. Don’t be like my waitress. Have a great attitude. Smile. Have fun!

I want to give as many people as possible my free eBook, 5 Steps to Finding Your Purpose. Please forward this to a friend who needs it. If they click here, they can get the free eBook.

Let’s GO!

What Would You Do If You Assumed You Could?


Most of the things worth doing in the world had been declared impossible before they were done.
– Louis D Brandeis

You can’t do it. It’s impossible. Can’t be done. There’s just no way. You’re wasting your time.

When you say that – or someone convinces you that’s true – your brain shuts down. It doesn’t even try to come up with options. It just says, “OK, guess I don’t need to think about how to make that happen. I’ll just move on to trying to figure out the next thing they should stuff in our pizza crust.

(We can buy pizza crusts stuffed with cheese, cream cheese, 3 cheeses, 5 cheeses, bacon – mmm, bacon – cheese and pepperoni, hot dogs…And we can dip it all in Ranch dressing. Gee, I can’t figure out why America has an obesity problem.)

If you believe it can’t be done, you will never do it. You will never even try to do it. Your ideas and dreams will fade and die.

“To believe a thing impossible is to make it so.”
– French Proverb

But what if? What if you assume it is possible? What happens then?

Manned flight, space travel, radio, television, cell phones, personal computers, lasers, cancer treatments and whatever else you can think of, were all considered impossible when the first person dreamed them up. Now, we have them all.

So, what if we start saying it’s possible? What if we start to imagine how it could be done?

Then, our brains start a new kind of innovative, inventive, creative, and productive thought process. We’ve asked our brains to find a solution so they’re working on it.

Remember the Apollo 13 space mission? After the fire and oxygen problems, imagine if the astronauts and engineers had said, “There’s just no way we can fix this.”

Instead, they said, “Failure is not an option.”

Is there anything recently that caused you to say it can’t be done?

  • A potential customer you don’t think you can land?
  • Discovering your Passionate Purpose to create the extraordinary life of your dreams?
  • A new business venture you really want to try but you don’t see how you can make it work?
  • Creating a lasting relationship with someone you might want to spend the rest of your life with?
  • Buying that new house?
  • Taking on a new project?

What would happen if you assume it’s possible, say failure is not an option, and start some imaginative thinking on how to do it?

If you start asking the right questions, you might be shocked by the answers your brain comes up with. And then – don’t miss this part – take immediate action on them.

Action steps:

1) Take some quiet time tonight and just dream. Ask yourself, what would I like to do if I knew I could do it? What one thing would I change, in each part of my life, if I knew I could?

2) Imagine everything is possible and start listing ideas on how you could make the changes you want in your life.

3) Pick the one change that matters most to you and write down every possible way you could make it happen.

4) Take at least one action right away to get started.

Let’s GO!

(I now offer one to one coaching and an online coaching program for various budgets. Click here for more details.)

The Real Reason You’re Not as Happy as You Could Be


I was listening to Tony Robbins the other day about why we aren’t as happy as we would like to be. What he said really hit home.

Think of a part of your life that you’re unhappy with. It could be your career, your finances, your marriage, your relationships, your children, your health, your spiritual life, whatever.

Now ask yourself, what are your expectations for that part of your life right now? I’m guessing your real life isn’t meeting your expectations. That’s why you’re unhappy.

Greg, you’re crazy. It’s more than that. I’m suffering from some horrible circumstances. You don’t understand the problems I’m facing, the stress I’m under, and the problems with my marriage!

You’re right (except for that crazy part). I don’t know your story. But let me ask you this. If you expected your life to be worse than it is right now, wouldn’t you be happier? If you were exceeding your expectations, wouldn’t you be happier?

If you’re unhappy with your income: Do you think someone from a third world country, surviving on $2 a day would be unhappy with your salary? No! They’ve never even dreamed of making as much money in their lifetime as you make in one year! They would be ecstatic to have your income.

What’s the difference? Expectations. It’s the same in every part of your life.

Our expectations are not facts. They aren’t supposed to happen just because we want them to. Our expectations are really just our wants. We turn our wants into our shoulds. Then, when everything doesn’t meet our expectations we get sad, angry, or both.

Shakespeare put it this way, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”

We all have so much to appreciate in our lives, yet we focus most of our thoughts and efforts on what we don’t have.

But, Greg, I don’t want to lower my standards. I have goals I want to achieve. I want to be motivated and ambitious.

I agree! Me, too! That’s why we need to be grateful for what we have and even more grateful for what we are working on and creating. Here’s what I mean.

First, we need to turn our expectations into appreciations for all we have. Here’s a great exercise to help with that. Every night right before you go to bed, spend five minutes writing down three things that happened that day that you are grateful for. Write down different things each day. It can be something small like, I had a great cup of coffee with a friend, or, my daughter and I went for a walk together. It could be something big as well. Just make sure you write them down. The research shows that if you do that for 30 days, you will be significantly happier. Make it a new habit.

We need to decide that we are going to find the good and beauty wherever we can. That we will learn from whatever comes our way. That we will be grateful for all we have right now – without comparing it to any expectation.

Secondly, we need to get clear on a definition of success that will help us increase our happiness – and reach our goals.

Sometimes we define success in unrealistic ways:

  • I will achieve all my goals
  • I will make X amount of money
  • I will have the perfect family life
  • I will have a beautiful house on the beach
  • I will have 8% body fat.

If we don’t reach these goals, we feel like failures. Even if we achieve our goals, our feelings of success are brief. We simply come up with new goals and tell ourselves we still aren’t successful. It becomes a never-ending cycle. (Gee, that sounds like fun!)

But, what if we change the definition of success? I like this one:

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”
–Earl Nightingale

Nightingale went on to say, “A success is anyone who is realizing a worthy predetermined ideal, because that’s what he or she decided to do… deliberately. But only one out of 20 does that!”

We definitely want to be one of the 20. Setting goals and going after them are great things to do. They push us to serve others and to create the extraordinary life of our dreams. But the progress towards the goal is success. The moment we are going after a worthy goal we are successful.

But, if we set up unrealistic expectations we’re setting ourselves up to be unhappy. That won’t help us reach our goals. It will make it harder (and a lot less fun) to get there.

If we change our expectations for the appreciations of what we have, our happiness changes instantly.

So, whenever you are feeling sad, take a look at your expectations. Change your expectations and change how you feel.

Keep moving forward on your goals and keep becoming the person you were created to be. That is a great road of happiness.

Let’s GO!

(I now offer one to one coaching and an online coaching program for various budgets. Click here for more details.)

Serve (don’t sell) Your Way to Success


You can get everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.
–Zig Ziglar

I am a big believer in serving your way to success for three reasons.

1) It’s the right thing to do.

2) It makes you feel great.

3) It comes back to you tenfold.

I’ve found the key to joyfully serving others is to forget about number 3, to forget about getting everything I want, to simply focus on serving others without expecting anything from them in return. When I do that, I am happier, and as a bonus, I get more of number 3. It’s so cool!

But, sometimes I get busy. I get distracted. I become selfish and totally caught up in my own stuff. I start trying to sell my way to success instead of serving. When I do that, things start to go poorly.

Does that ever happen to you?

There’s an old story that reminds me to serve others unconditionally.

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a diner and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.

The boy looked up at her and asked, “How much is an ice cream sundae?”

“Fifty cents,” the waitress replied, a bit irritably.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the few coins he had.

“How much is a dish of plain ice cream?” he inquired. Some people were now waiting for a table and the waitress was beginning to lose her patience.

“Thirty-five cents,” she said brusquely.

The little boy again counted his coins. “I think I’ll just have the plain ice cream,” he said.

The waitress rolled her eyes, brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished his treat, paid the cashier and left.

When the waitress came back, she began wiping down the table and then swallowed hard at what she saw. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, was a dime and a nickel – her tip.

Everyone deserves our best service, regardless of their ability to pay us back. When we remember and act on that belief, we end up making a difference in the world. As a bonus, we end up being more successful, too.

It’s almost like someone created the world to be that way. Hmm…

When you understand you earn more when you serve more, you can feel good about your efforts and your progress. You know you are providing goods and services to people that are enriching their lives. They joyfully line up to give you money for your efforts because you are providing great value. You are one of the good guys!

When you believe there is infinite wealth to be created in this life you don’t need to look at everyone else as competition. You can truly be happy for other people’s achievements because you know it does absolutely nothing to diminish your chance of being successful and might even help you succeed.

There is more than enough for us all.

So, let’s go create some great stuff and serve others with it.

Action Plan:

1) Make it a point to help 3 people this weekend by serving them in some way.

2) Don’t expect anything in return.

3) Reflect on how this made a difference, and how it made you feel.

4) Repeat this pattern and don’t be surprised when you start to get bonus returns on your service.

Question for comments:

Can you remember a time where helping someone else really turned your day or your life around?

(I now offer one to one coaching and an online coaching program for various budgets. Click here for more details.)

Changing is Hard, Not Changing is Worse


Shhh! You’re not supposed to tell people it’s hard. It’s supposed to be easy if you just follow my five-step plan and send me $99.99!

But, it’s the truth and we all know it. Changing, learning, and growing is scary and hard. If it was easy, everyone would do it. (Hey you can still send me the $99.99 if you want.)

Why is it so hard and scary to change?

“Change is hard because people overestimate the value of what they have—and underestimate the value of what they may gain by giving that up.”
— James Belasco and Ralph Stayer

Even if what we’re doing isn’t getting us everything we want, it’s getting us something: It’s comfortable. It’s not that bad. We’re getting by. We’re making a living… We’ve created habits.

We start shoulding on ourselves (and that gets messy fast). I shouldn’t be so selfish in wanting more than I have. I should feel lucky I have a job. I should stop dreaming about things that will never happen.

We start believing the worst that could happen: I could lose my job, my home, declare bankruptcy, get divorced and end up living in a van down by the river!

All these things work against us.

So, why even try to change, grow and learn? Because it’s worth it.

When I was a little boy I wanted to make a big change. I wanted to stop riding with training wheels and ride a big boy bike. I was scared of getting hurt, but I really wanted to learn. My older brother taught me.

We lived on a hilly street. My brother had me get on the bike at the top of the hill. He would run alongside me holding the bike until we stopped in our driveway. Then we’d walk the bike back to the top of the hill and start the whole process again.

I started getting pretty good. The next time down the hill I was feeling great, I was really moving. I turned into my driveway and was hurtling toward the closed garage door. I yelled to my brother, “Dave, stop. Stop! Dave, stop!” Bam! I crashed right into the garage door.

My brother thought I was doing so well he could let go of the bike and quit running beside me. The problem with that was he didn’t tell me and didn’t teach me how to stop.

It hurt. I had a big lump on my head. But I didn’t say, “Well that bike riding stuff hurts. I’m never doing that again.” I wanted to ride a big-boy bike without training wheels. I wanted to keep up with all the other kids. I wanted to be miles from my house with my parents having no idea where I was!

I put my football helmet on and got back on my bike. I learned how to ride my bike and it was glorious. It also taught me how important pushing through the pain to make a change is.

You might not have a brother who rammed you into a closed garage door, (Thanks, Dave!) but I bet you fell a few times learning to ride your bike. I also bet that didn’t stop you from learning to ride. Why would you risk getting hurt again? Why not give up? Because we all know that short term pain is worth the long term gain.

Question for Comment:

What do you want to change, learn or do?

I know it’s scary and hard.

You will fall. You will get hurt (for a short time).

But it will be worth it.

Imagine how it could change your life.

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How My Trumpet Can Keep You On Top


In 5th grade I decided to join the elementary school band and play the trumpet. (Why the trumpet? They let us try all the instruments, but I couldn’t keep my cheeks from puffing out when I tried the trombone. Yup, that’s the kind of thought I put into my instrument of choice.)

In the first week of practice we had auditions. Out of 36 trumpets, I was 33rd chair. (Take that chair 34, 35, and 36!) Let’s just say I was not awesome at this.

All of that changed when our band director handed out the music. We were going to play the theme from Rocky! (Gonna Fly Now) This was in 1978. The movie had only come out two years earlier and I loved that song. And, the trumpets had an amazing part.

I took the sheet music home and started playing it. But I didn’t have the melody. I was playing boring low notes the whole time. I didn’t understand why. (I’ll explain in a minute.) I really didn’t sound very good. It was painful to listen to me.

My mom saw me struggling and got me private lessons. I had a really cool teacher who said my embouchure – the way my mouth was on the trumpet – was all wrong. He showed me what to do and sent me home.

I worked my butt off and the next week my teacher was stunned. He said my embouchure was now “super good” and we could start really learning how to play.

I practiced hard.

Three months later my band had auditions again. This time I jumped from 33rd chair to 3rd chair. I even beat out all but two of the 6th graders who had been playing a year longer than I had. Wow! All the hard practicing was really paying off.

Then, my director asked me to hand in all my music. I didn’t know what was happening. Had I done something wrong? Was I in trouble? Nope, she just wanted to give me the 1st part for every song. I didn’t understand. What did 1st part mean?

I was so new to music that I didn’t realize there were different parts depending on how good you were. The best players played 1st part melody. I had been playing 3rd part harmony. Now I was getting the 1st part for all our songs – and that included the first part to ROCKY!

I rode my bike home as fast as I could and started playing that song, imagining I was running up the steps in Philly. I was playing the melody. I sounded like the theme song! (Well, kinda. I sounded like the simplified 5th grade version of the song, but I was playing the MELODY!)

From there I fell in love with the trumpet and ramped up my practicing. In junior high I was in two bands, practiced in the marching band after school and spent at least another hour practicing at home each day.

In 8th grade I auditioned for the all county band and made 1st chair. That meant I was the best junior high trumpet player in all of Orange County, Florida (Orlando). I thought that was pretty cool.

In fact, I got a little cocky. I let my practice schedule slip. I didn’t work as hard on new songs. I didn’t ask my private teacher to push me as hard.

The next year, as a 9th grader I auditioned for the all county band again – and only made third chair. An 8th grader was second chair! How did I let this happen?

I realized that I had become complacent with my trumpet. I wasn’t looking for new songs and new challenges. I was resting on my accomplishments. While I was doing that, other people were working hard to get better. And they passed me by.

How many of us have done that in some part of our life or work?

Sometimes it’s because we get bored or tired. Other times it’s because we aren’t paying attention to the changes in our business or life. Still other times we aren’t looking for the ways to innovate and change to reach a new level of success.

If we want to fix that, we have to keep looking for the next Rocky Theme Song that gets us excited. That’s what helps drive us to put in the hard work it takes to become the best version of ourselves we can.

Question for comment:

What’s your next Rocky? What’s gonna make you fly now?

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Wake up Energized, Even if You’re NOT a Morning Person


Get ready for an amazing insight coming at you. People with a good, positive, optimistic attitude tend to enjoy their day more and accomplish more than people with a negative, depressing, pessimistic attitude. See, I told you—deep insight. You’re welcome.

We know this from research and from our own experience. But how do we create and maintain the positive mindset we need to live a happier, healthier life and reach all our goals?

I’ve got some great tips for you, but I want to begin with this:


Start every morning by thinking about all the great things in your life. For most of us it’s pretty easy coming up with at least a short list.

I have a routine I go through every day when I wake up that gets me up on the right side of the bed. I’m a Christian, so for me this ties into my religion. But, you can use the same type of technique whether you’re religious or not. Instead of a thankful prayer list, simply make it your gratitude list.

As I slowly wake up, I start to pray. I thank God for for my wife, my children, my extended family, and my friends. I thank Him for the fact that I have more than enough to provide my family with food, clothing, and shelter. I praise Him for the fact that I was born in the United States of America and I have so many opportunities to create a life of abundance for myself and enough to help others as well. I give thanks for the multiple ways I’m able to earn income doing something I love, and I’m grateful for my excellent health.

I give thanks that I’m not stuck in a job I hate with some guy telling me I need to get my TPS forms in and another guy claiming I stole his stapler.

As I’m saying my prayers, I’m creating beautiful images in my head of everything I’m praying about. As I do this, I can feel my body and spirit coming more and more alive. Feelings of peace and happiness and ambition well up within me and I begin to feel excited about getting out of bed and starting the day. I spend about three minutes doing this. (I know this sounds kind of touchy-feely, but if you try it for a few days I think you will be amazed at the results you get.)

After I’m done giving thanks, I spend the next three to five minutes being grateful for my future life with all my major goals achieved. I put everything in the present tense as if I’m already living the life I want. I’m getting my conscious and subconscious minds focused on my goals, and the best way to do that is to put everything we want in the present tense.

I visualize pursuing my Passionate Purpose at the ultimate level. I imagine achieving my goals in every aspect of my life. If you really want to get excited about your future, describe it in great detail and imagine how it will look, feel, sound, smell, and taste. Get your emotions into it. Play the movie of your extraordinary life in your head. It’s better than any blockbuster at the multiplex.

The more real you make this, the more excited you will become to take on the day, and the more your subconscious mind will help you pursue your goals.

My daughter has a great quote on the lock screen of her phone: “I did not wake up today to be mediocre.” I know you didn’t either. So, let’s GO!

On to the tips!

1)Wake up early enough that you don’t have to rush

Most people wake up with just enough time to race through showering, getting dressed, getting the kids off to school, and grabbing a cup of coffee on the way out the door. How’s that working out for you? Is it really a great way to start the day?

Instead, supercharge the morning by getting up 30 minutes before you normally do in order to read, think, pray, meditate, or exercise. It sounds horrible if you’re not a morning person, but if you make it a new habit you will never stop.

Imagine how good it would feel to take your time in getting ready for greatness.

2)Wake up gently

Being jolted awake by a loud, buzzing alarm clock is actually bad for your health. (Plus, it scares the bleep out of you! Or maybe that’s just me.) The research shows it increases your blood pressure, heart rate, adrenaline and stress. Sounds like a super way to wake up to me, right? All we need now is for a small stroke and we’re ready to start the day.

Instead, set your alarm to a soothing sound or spa music. The best alarms slowly increase the volume and the light in your room over the course of a few minutes to gently wake you up.

But, Greg, I’ll sleep right through that. You don’t get me.

Hey, I’m feeling you. One time, at summer camp, my brother slept through a cannon and bugle call they blew every morning. But, trust me. The increasing sound and light together will wake you up. And it will be a much more pleasant way to start the day.

3)Stretch in bed before you get up.

Stress and relax each body part. Start with your toes. Flex and hold for about five seconds. Then relax them. Do that with every body part working your way all the way up to your forehead. It’s feels great and gets your physical body ready for action.

4)Have a wonderful breakfast (or at least something)

I know a lot of people say they don’t have time for it (see tip #1) or they don’t like to cook. I understand it’s not for everyone, but try it at least once a week with everyone in your house. I think you’re going to love it. I make eggs, sausage, toast, and some fruit every morning.

If you can’t do that, at least grab some fruit, and some protein (almonds or peanut butter on a spoon works) on your way out the door. It will get your metabolism going and keep you powered up until lunch.

5)Put your phone in your pocket without looking at it.

This is very hard for me to do, but it’s super rewarding. It will quickly become your new habit. It lets you set your priorities for the day instead of giving that power to your emails and social media. Schedule a set time in the morning to check those things – but NOT when you first wake up.

6)Every time you open your email program write a quick thank you to one person.

The thank you can be for something simple or something big. It doesn’t matter, just make sure it’s a real thank you. When you force yourself to think of who you should thank, and why, you will realize how many people help you and are nice to you – and how often we overlook it.

If you’re being efficient, you should only be checking your emails a couple of times a day. So, you need to come up with only a couple of people to thank.

I think this is my favorite tip on my list. When you do this, your relationships will change.

7)Pick someone you can help today.

Have you noticed that when you help someone else your problems seem to get smaller? It never fails. I don’t do this every day. I get busy. I forget. I worry that the person might not want my help. But, I’ve never felt bad after helping someone else.

Questions for comment: When was the last time you woke up energized and looking forward to the day? What did you do to create that experience?

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