How do you feel when you get a real thank you? I’m not talking about a “thanks” for holding the door, passing the ketchup, or a perfunctory thanks for taking my phone call. Those are all fine, but how do you feel when you get a sincere, meaningful thank you? How do you feel when someone looks you in the eye, gives you a firm handshake – or even a hug – and says, “I really want to thank you for ________. It means a lot to me and I’ll never forget it.”? How do you feel when someone hand writes you a heartfelt message and a “Thank You” on personal stationery?
“A sincere ‘thank you’ can change the day – even the life – of the receiver and the giver. Who do you need to thank today?”
A sincere, “thank you” creates an emotional bond between both parties. It encourages the person you’re thanking. It lets them know they count in this world, they’re making a difference, and they touched your life. It also makes you feel better, elevates your relationships, and often leads to more business (bonus!).
So why don’t we do it more? We tell ourselves:
- We’re busy
- The other person knows we appreciate them and doesn’t care if we say “thank you” anyway
- We don’t know how to say it
- It’s too much trouble.
Here’s how we need to answer those negative thoughts we tell ourselves:
- We’re busy – Everyone’s busy, but no one’s too busy to give or receive a thank you
- The other person knows we appreciate them and doesn’t care if we say “thank you” anyway – The other person doesn’t know how you feel unless you tell them, and they do care
- We don’t know how to say it – Just say what you feel
- It’s too much trouble – It only takes a few minutes and can cause joy and even miracles.
I think there’s one other reason we don’t say thank you enough…It can be scary.
When you admit that you needed someone’s help, or you couldn’t have done it without them, or you care about someone, you are making yourself vulnerable.
Being vulnerable does open you up to being hurt, but it also opens you up to deeper relationships and bigger opportunities.
You can take the risk to be vulnerable, offer a sincere thank you, and make an impact. Or you can play it “safe,” stay quiet, and miss your opportunity. Which will you choose?
Questions for comments: Who are you going to sincerely thank today? What happened when you did?
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