Get 100% clear on your why and your what. Then, your how will begin to appear. –Greg Knapp
I am very big on the idea of asking yourself empowering questions. We ask ourselves questions all the time. Our brain will come up with an answer no matter what we ask it.
How could I be so stupid?!
You aren’t stupid, but your brain will come up with an answer.
Why does this always happen to me?!
It doesn’t, but your brain will come up with an answer.
Those types of questions don’t help you get where you want to go. They beat you down and waste your time.
Let’s ask questions that lead to the results you want.
Why do you want to change your life?
Because I’m not happy, Greg. Jeez!
I get that things aren’t where you want them to be. I’m not trying to get down on you, I’m just trying to help you get clear on why you must change. That will keep you going when the journey gets tough.
It all starts with your why – your purpose. Then we can get to what you really want and the obstacles holding you back from starting to get it.
During a recent coaching session I asked my client, “Why do you want to change your life?”
He said he’d have to think about it for a minute. He already knew down deep, but I don’t think he’d ever taken the time to articulate it and bring it to his conscious mind.
After a few moments he said, “Greg, I’m tired of just going through the motions. I’m not sure if I know my purpose. I think if I can figure that out, it will help me make the changes to make my life better.”
That was a start. I then followed up with, “What do you mean by better?”
He replied that he wanted to earn an income to provide for his family so they could live in a better neighborhood with better schools and they would have everything they need.
“Beyond that, Greg, I feel stuck. I don’t know where I’m going next. I don’t feel needed where I work, and my self-confidence is low. I want to find purpose in my life and work so I can love what I do and take care of my family.”
Now, we were getting somewhere
Do you want to be more excited about your career, your spouse, your relationships, your family, and your spiritual development?
Do you want freedom to control your own time, career, vacation, and life? Freedom to travel the world with the people you love?
Do you want to generate abundant amounts of income so you can do everything you’ve ever dreamed of, take care of your family, and give to help others?
Why must you change your life?
Once you’ve figured that out, you can move on to what you want and how to start doing it.
Ask yourself some empowering questions:
What’s your why?
What’s your gift?
What’s your purpose?
What are you doing when you feel great?
What type of work are you doing when you feel like you’re in the zone or in flow?
What things have you done that you’re passionate about and that bring you joy?
What things have you done that you felt brought meaning to your life?
What are you good, or even great at? (Or what could you become great at?)
What would your dream job entail?
What would a terrific relationship with your spouse look like?
Why do you want to have to change?
What would be bad about staying exactly the way you are?
What would be great if you changed?
What would make the changes worth all the time and effort it’s going to take?
Get your journal out today and answer these questions. Get quiet and still and think deeply. Surface living isn’t getting you what you want. You need to go down deep into yourself to pull out your “why.”
Take at least 30 minutes to answer these questions and write them down.
Magic happens when we write our thoughts down. They become real in a different way than when they are only in our heads.
Make this as real and emotional as you can.
It’s your life and it won’t become what you want by accident.