Because I generally have a positive outlook, I frequently have people ask me, “Greg, you’re not one of those positive thinkers looking at the world through rose-colored glasses are you?” Well, yes and no.
I am a positive thinker, but I’m not someone who ignores problems and pretends everything is perfect. That’s not being positive and optimistic. That’s being stupid.
The optimist throws the curtains open and says, “Good morning, God!” The pessimist rolls over and says, “Good god, it’s morning.”
If you’re having trouble paying your bills and instead of doing anything to fix the problem you simply think positive and hope your bills get paid, they will eventually come take your car, foreclose on your house, and you’ll be eating government cheese, living in a van, down by the river.
But that doesn’t mean the only thing you can do is focus on your poor financial situation. There is always more than one reality.
Reality 1: You don’t have enough money coming in.
Reality 2: You have a good job. You have opportunities for advancement. Maybe you can ask for some overtime work. You have skills to earn extra income. You could start a side business via the Internet. You could cut back on some of your expenses that aren’t necessities, etc.
The reality you focus on will greatly affect your mood, actions, and outcome.
“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.” – Dr. Wayne W Dyer
Remember, you aren’t lying to yourself or ignoring reality. You are choosing to focus on the reality that will help you the most.
Research shows that to get the best results you need to focus on the positives three times as much as the negatives. The next time you think of something negative, immediately think of three positive things in your life. Make that a new habit.
It’s something all of us can start doing today. When I do it, I move forward and feel better. Let me know how it works for you…and get rid of the van down by the river. It’s kinda creepy.
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