Shhh! You’re not supposed to tell people it’s hard. It’s supposed to be easy if you just follow my five-step plan and send me $19.99!
But, it’s the truth and we all know it. Changing, learning, and growing is scary and hard. If it was easy, everyone would do it.
Why is it scary to change?
Even if what we’re doing isn’t getting us everything we want, it’s getting us something: It’s comfortable. It’s not that bad. We’re getting by. We’re making a living… We’ve created habits.
We start shoulding on ourselves: I shouldn’t be so selfish in wanting more than I have. I should feel lucky I have a job. I should stop dreaming about things that will never happen.
We start believing the worst that could happen: I could lose my job, my home, declare bankruptcy, get divorced and end up living in a van down by the river!
All these things work against us.
So, why even try to change, grow and learn?
Because it’s worth it.
Remember learning to ride a bike? My older brother taught me. We lived on a hilly street. My brother had me get on the bike at the top of the hill. He would run alongside me holding the bike until we stopped in our driveway. Then we’d walk the bike back to the top of the hill and start the whole process again.
I started getting pretty good. The next time down the hill I was feeling great, I was really moving. I turned into my driveway and was hurtling toward the closed garage door. I yelled to my brother, “Dave, stop. Stop! Dave, stop!” Bam! I crashed right into the garage door.
My brother thought I was doing so well he could let go of the bike and quit running beside me. The problem with that was he didn’t tell me and didn’t teach me how to stop.
It hurt. I had a big lump on my head. But I didn’t say, “Well that bike riding stuff hurts. I’m never doing that again.” I wanted to ride a big-boy bike without training wheels. I wanted the freedom that came with that. I put my football helmet on and got back on my bike.
You might not have a brother who rammed you into a closed garage door, (Thanks, Dave!) but I bet you fell a few times learning to ride your bike. I also bet that didn’t stop you from learning to ride. Why would you risk getting hurt again? Why not give up? Because we all know that some things are worth the pain.
What do you want to change, learn or do?
I know it’s scary and hard.
But it’s worth the pain.
Imagine how it could change your life.
The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.