I Know This Works

And I keep forgetting to do it. Doh!

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My personal experience continually proves to me that goal setting works. Writing my goals down is crucial. Creating a plan and taking daily action to achieve those goals gets me there even faster. Have your experiences led you to the same conclusions?

We also know that most people rarely even begin this process and those of us who do, don’t always follow through.

I’m giving a speech on this next week and while I was writing it, rewriting it, and rehearsing it I realized I’m not practicing what I preach.

  • I’m not reading my top 3 goals every morning and every night.
  • My daily, weekly, and monthly plans aren’t keeping up with my goals.
  • My written goals are out of date.
  • I’m doing a lot of things on the fly and it’s slowing me down.

Has this ever happened to you? We know this stuff works, but we get caught up in everyday living and things start to slide.

How long has it been since you took a few hours, gotten away from all distractions and figured out what you really want? How long since you wrote it down, wrote down your plan to get there, and started taking action every day? It’s worth the time.

I just did this again yesterday. I want to help you do it, too.

I’m continually working on my leadership and employee engagement speaking business so I created this goal:

“I am so thankful that I am serving and helping people by giving 2 speeches a month to organizations and associations for $$$$ each on 10/12/2019, or something even better.”

I made my goal:

  • Grateful
  • Specific and definite
  • Measurable 
  • Stated in the present tense as if you already have it
  • Positive With a deadline
  • Open to something even better that you might not have thought of

Then I created daily, weekly, and montly plans of action. I will continue to tweak them depending on how I’m doing at reaching my goal.

 

I’m recommiting to reading my top 3 goals every morning and every night. It keeps me focused and it keeps my mind thinking of new ways to make my goals become my reality.

Action steps:

1) Schedule four hours and a special place to go where no one will bother you.
2) Download the worksheets in my my free eBook — 5 Steps to Finding Your Passionate Purpose.
3) Decide what you really want
4) Create your top 3 goals – and break those down into easier to achieve mini-goals
5) Create action plans to go with your goals
6) Take one action step at a time so you don’t get overwhelmed.
7) Celebrate each mini-goal achievement.
8) Keep tweaking your goals and action plans to get you to your goals faster.
9) Let’s GO!

Questions for comments: Do you notice a difference in your life when you have written goals and written plans to achieve them? What’s different?

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Unlimited Vacation. No Internal Email. No Annual Review. WHAT?!

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How would you like to work for a company that lets you take as much vacation as you want, bans internal email, does away with the annual performance review, and truly puts the employees welfare first?

Those are some of the idea’s in Under New Management, by David Burkus.

I had a chance to interview David about these ideas. He said many of our long standing business practices are counterproductive, wrong and misguided. It’s time to change the way we do things.

Click below to here the interview.

 

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Go Big or Go Home is Wrong

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Sometimes we aim too high, too fast, and then should all over ourselves. You know, I should have gotten more done. I should have been smarter. I should have achieved my goal already.  I should be reading Greg’s blog every week and getting him to coach me. (OK, that last one was a shameless plug.) None of this is helpful.

When we should on ourselves it just leads to discouragement and it makes it harder to reach our goals. Two things happened to me this week that reminded me how destructive all that is.

First, I heard an interview where a world class, female athlete was asked how she accomplished so much. Her reply was awesome.

“I didn’t really have lofty goals when I started. I just wanted to get good enough and make enough money to feed my dog. Once I did that, I set higher goals. Now I set goals I couldn’t have dreamed of before.”

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Yes! She created a goal, achieved it, and then created momentum. She has so much confidence now that her goals are enormous.

She didn’t live by the t-shirt slogan, Go Big or Go Home. She went small, won, went bigger, won, and now she goes LARGE!

Don’t get me wrong. Setting big goals is an awesome thing to do. Just don’t let the size of them paralyze you from taking action. Don’t become discouraged because you don’t change the world in a day.

The second thing that happened to me was a new friend of mine spoke eloquently to me about Grace. He reminded me that we are all flawed. No matter how much we try, we make mistakes. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.

And that’s OK.

Give yourself some Grace.

Give your friends and family some Grace.

Take a breath.

Action Steps:

  1. Take your big goal and break it down.
  2. Create smaller goals to get there and action plans for the next year, six months, one month, one week and one day.
  3. Take action every day.
  4. Watch your small steps turn into something BIG.

If you’ve had a tough time or two, budget some time for a pity party if necessary (not for long, though).

Regroup.

Then, GO!

Question for comments: What small goal led to something you didn’t think you could accomplish?

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What Would You Do If It Was Impossible to Fail?

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You can’t do it. It’s impossible. Can’t be done. There’s just no way. You’re wasting your time.

When you say that, your brain doesn’t even try to come up with options. It just says, “Well, guess I don’t need to think about how to make that happen. I’ll just move on to trying to figure out the next thing they should stuff in our pizza crust. Did you know they stuffed one with hotdogs?! (OK, maybe that’s just my brain.)

If you believe it can’t be done, you will never do it. You will never even try to do it.

But what if?

What if you assume it is possible? What happens then? (Then I can start putting chicken and waffles in my pizza crust? – Greg, what is this obsession with food today? Hey, I haven’t had lunch yet. )

What happens then is you start to imagine how it could be done. Your brain starts a new kind of innovative, inventive, creative and productive thought process.

Hey, what if you could create a self driving, flying car – with a bed – that massages you – and cooks your favorite food? (Greg, enough with the food ideas already! – Sorry.)

You’ve asked your brain to find a solution so it’s working on it.

Remember the Apollo 13 space mission? After the fire and oxygen problems, imagine if the astronauts and engineers had said, there’s just no way we can fix this. Not good.

Instead, they said, “Failure is not an option.” And they figured out a way.

Is there anything recently that caused you to say it can’t be done?

  • A potential customer you don’t think you can land?
  • A new business venture you really want to try but you don’t see how you can make it work?
  • Creating a lasting relationship with someone you might want to spend the rest of your life with?
  • Buying that new house?
  • Taking on a new project?

What would happen if you assume it’s possible, say failure is not an option, and start some imaginative thinking on how to do it?

If you start asking the right questions, you might be shocked by the answers your brain comes up with.

Let me know.

Let’s GO!

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STOP Listening!

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I’ve got some counter culture advice for you. If you want to pursue your Passionate Purpose and create the life of your dreams, it’s time to STOP listening.

Whoa, Greg. That sounds crazy. Everyone I know talks about how important it is to listen. There are seminars, books, videos and courses you can take that will teach you how to be a great listener. Now you’re telling me to stop listening? Have you gone cuckoo for cocoa puffs?

I understand your skepticism (but I think you need to be a bit more politically correct to our friends with mental health special needs). Let me explain.

I’m not saying stop listening to everyone and everything. That WOULD be bozo. I’m saying you need some selective hearing (like when someone asks you to take out the trash compared to when someone calls you to dinner).

Be selective about who and what you listen to. It can support you, encourage you, and build you up, or it can demoralize you and tear you down.

Are you listening to the world or yourself? The world will demand you meet its needs. It will give you all kinds of reasons to do what it tells you. It will result in a never-ending game of When-Then.

The World says when you get enough money, know the right people, earn the right degree, have enough experience – Then you can try and launch your own business/product/service/website

The World says when you get that job, promotion, bonus, or new house – Then you will be happy, respected, and successful.

The World says when you create a real light saber – Then you will become the coolest dad in the universe. (Wait, don’t write that, Greg. Use your inside voice on that one.) Sorry.

When-Then always leaves us wanting more and much less happy than we thought we’d be.

The World will whisper that you’re not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough. Your job isn’t prestigious or important enough. You don’t do anything significant. You will fail if you try. You’re a fraud. Why would anyone want to work with you? Why would they buy from you? Who are you to write a book, or start a new business, or become a consultant?

The World will tell you, that you don’t really count and you never will.

Man, The World is kind of a jerk. Yup. So why do we listen to it?

Listen to yourself and follow your Passionate Purpose to be happier, more successful, more significant and a better person for all you love. You get to decide what’s important to you and your family. Don’t give that power to anyone else.

Why are you doing what you’re doing right now? Are you happy with that answer?

When passion and desire meet you have tremendous power. When you put everything into it – you have more enjoyment and success. Don’t murder your dreams by telling yourself you can’t do what you feel you were born to do.

Living an extraordinary life isn’t just for the special or elite. Everyone can do it, but not everyone will do it.

Decide what you want, why you want it, and start today with some baby steps to get there. It doesn’t have to be a huge leap, but you do have to begin.

Questions for comments: What baby steps can you take today to get started?

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How to Outsource What You Don’t Want to Do – For Almost Nothing!

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Are there things you have to do, but you don’t really want to do? Maybe some things you aren’t great at that need to get done? Are there things that you could do, but aren’t the best use of your time?

Um, Greg, is this a trick question? Does a one-legged duck swim in circles? Does the Pope wear a funny hat? Do I always show up on time for dinner?

Sorry.

Here’s the point. You can outsource almost everything you don’t want to do, everything you aren’t great at, and everything that takes your time away from doing what you are great at – and most of it doesn’t cost very much. Why waste your precious time doing things you don’t like and might not be very good at?

How much more could you get done if you focused most of your time on the things you love to do and do well? At work? At home?

Yes, it costs money. But not as much as you might think, and how much more money could you make focusing on your most important things? And how much is your time worth? You’ve heard it said that time is money. Nope. Time is more valuable than money. You can make more money. No one can make more time. So, how much is your time worth?

As I was writing my book (shameless plug – makes a great Christmas gift – especially for your college educated son living in the basement playing video games all day) I realized I didn’t want to spend the time and effort creating the cover, formatting it for print and digital outlets, and doing the final editing. I also knew I couldn’t do those parts of the book as well, and as quickly, as people who do those sorts of things as their main job.

So, I outsourced all of it!

I used a website called Fiverr. Check it out. (No, I don’t get a kickback if you use them. Although, I’d like to! Hey, Fiverr – help a brother out!) The site has tons of people and organizations from America and all around the world to choose from. Each one’s performance is rated by the users and you can reach out to them before you put down your money to get the job done. All the work is based on $5 gigs. Some jobs take multiple “gigs” to get done.

My front cover was $5. My back and side cover were another $5. A digital 3D photo for my website and Amazon was $5. You get the idea.

I had several people in the business tell me it would cost several hundred dollars to get my book cover created. I did it for $15 plus tax. Sweet.

Here are some other websites that can help you outsource your unwanted tasks:

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Guru
Upwork
Elance
Fiverr
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As I continue to run my business on helping people and businesses find and pursue their Passionate Purpose I plan to spend my time on what only I can do and what I like to do –  and outsource the things I’m not as good at, don’t like to do, or don’t want to spend my valuable time doing.

Think about all the things you could outsource at home and at work:

  • Video editing
  • Grocery delivery
  • Research
  • Web design
  • Research
  • Graphic design for covers, logos, banners, etc.
  • Creating Power Point slides – Great ones
  • Podcast editing
  • Advertising
  • Marketing
  • Bookkeeping
  • Cleaning: It doesn’t have to be a weekly maid. How about once or twice a month? How about only the really tough stuff, like the bathrooms, and the windows?

Have you always wanted a personal assistant like CEOs and celebrities have, but you can’t justify spending the money? Here’s an article listing the The 10 Lowest Cost Virtual Assistant Services.

Do what you love, what needs your touch or voice, and what creates the most for you. Outsource the rest.

Question for comments: What have you outsourced? What has worked well and what hasn’t?

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George Costanza Can Help You Find Your Passionate Purpose

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If you want to live an inspired, extraordinary life you’re my kind of people. Finding your Passionate Purpose is the first step on that amazing journey. A couple of posts ago we went over how it helps you in so many ways.

I received an email saying “Greg, I’m on board. I want to find my PP and live the life I was meant to, but I’m having trouble figuring it out.”

I got you.

First, there is no one right way to do this.

But I do have a ton of strategies and techniques to help you find it and I’ll lay them out over the next few posts.

Let’s start with George Costanza. Remember the Seinfeld episode where George figured out that his life was a mess because he always made the wrong choices? He decided he was going to do the opposite of what he would normally do and see how that would work. His life improved greatly!

Of course, it wasn’t hard to improve the life of a bald, middle-aged, unemployed man who still lived with his parents, but you get the idea.

The Costanza Method

Figure out all the things you don’t want in every part of your life.

Describe what your worst job would be, who you would work with, what your hours would be, how much you would earn, and what your vacations would be like.

Then move on to where you would live, who you would be married to, and what your family and friends would be like.

Continue describing what you don’t want for your spiritual life, your physical fitness and every other aspect of your life you can think of. Write this out in as much detail as you can. Make this your nightmare life.

See it, feel it, and make it as real for you as you possibly can.

Pretty brutal.

Now apply the Costanza method. Imagine and write down the exact opposite life and you’ll be on your way to your best life.

And you have a bald, middle-aged, unemployed man who still lives with his parents to thank for it.

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Your Why Must be Specific, Powerful, and AWESOME!

Or You'll Probably Give Up

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After you do the work to look inside yourself and find out what you really want out of life, the next step is finding your why. Why do you want all the things you want?

After a recent speech I gave, a woman came up to me and asked a great question: “How specific should your why be?”

My answer: As specific as you can make it.

Your why is the driving force behind your Passionate Purpose and all the goals you set in the pursuit of it.

Every successful person I know agrees with the idea that if your “why” is strong enough, you will do what is necessary to find the “how.” Then you will put in the work to make it happen. And there will be plenty of work. You must make yourself the person you need to be to achieve your goals. You must be committed to increasing your education, skills, and experience to meet the demands that come with what you want. Figure out what they are and do something every day to get you closer to where you want to go.

The whole point is to get your life focused on your why. This is why you are alive! This is your purpose. The more specific you can be about why you want it, the more energized you’ll be to do it. Get super specific on why you want to change your life.

Then we’ll take that specific why and create goals to guide you down your path to living the life you were born to live. These goals are not ends in themselves, they are measurable ways to show you’re on the right track pursuing your Passionate Purpose.

Here’s what I mean. What is the purpose of your financial goal? Yes, of course it’s to earn more money, but why? What is your purpose for earning more money?

Is it so you can be financially independent to the point you no longer have to work while maintaining the lifestyle you’ve always dreamed of?

Is it so you can take better care of your family, make memories with them on special vacations, allow your children to take piano lessons, expand your business so you can positively affect more people, give more generously, live in a beautiful home?

Is it all of the above?

How would achieving that goal make you feel?

What is it about the goal that pushes your Passionate Purpose forward? Get crystal clear on your why.

 

What is it for you? Why are you pursuing your purpose and your goals? Spend some time thinking about it.

Here’s how you do it:

1) Write down your Passionate Purpose or a goal and then ask yourself, “Why do I want this?”

2) List as many reasons as you can. Keep going past the material reasons into the emotional reasons.

3) Then for each reason you wrote down ask yourself again, “Why do I want this?”

4) Keep doing that until you can’t answer the question anymore. You might be surprised at what types of whys you find that you have never brought to your conscious mind before.

5) Make a new list of your most important whys. Read the list every morning and night.

6) Spend 5 minutes every day imagining how it will feel when you’re living out your why. How will it change your life and the lives of the people you love?

This is why you work so hard. This is what will motivate you through the tough times. This is what makes it all worth it.

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YOU are not average. Science proves it.

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You are not average. Actually, no one is. “Wait a second, Greg. I agree that I’m not average, but lots of people are average. Hello, Greg that’s how they come up with average – it’s most people!”

That’s the funny thing. Todd Rose has done a bunch of research on this and he’s found that not one person is truly average. The averages are made up of statistical models of measurements of all kinds of people, but not one person really fits all the measurements.

Yet, we still try to fit people into the average box. We base our schools on the average child. We base what college we can get into on how far above average our GPA is and how far beyond average we can score on standardized tests. We get hired for our first job in much the same way.

Why? Does real world success correlate closely with those things?

Not really. There is a ton of data showing the correlation is weak.

In Rose’s book, The End of Average: How We Succeed in a World that Values Sameness, you learn how to leverage your uniqueness for uncommon achievement and joy.

The ideas in the book help you in your role as a parent, entrepreneur, team leader, and employee.

Listen to my interview with Todd:

Here’s Todd giving a Harvard 8×8 talk about his book.

 

Questions for comments: What is unique about you that has helped or hurt you? How can you leverage it for even more success?

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Are You Too Comfortable?

I like being comfortable, don’t you? Comfy chair, comfy car, comfy job, comfy relationships, comfy routine – who doesn’t like comfy? But what if your comfort level is stopping you from becoming great? What if it’s stopping you from doing great things?

Hey, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it – right? Well, if you feel like comfy is “good enough,” then you’re done.

But doesn’t that mean you’ve stopped improving? Isn’t it fun to keep working at making everything better?

I’m reading, How Champions Think, by sports psychologist Bob Rotella. He’s worked with some of the biggest names in sports and business and he found that the people who achieve greatness don’t allow themselves to be comfortable.

“In sports and business, if you’re not aspiring to dominate, to be the very best, you’re coasting. And you can only coast in one direction.”
— Bob Rotella

The clients Bob likes to work with are the ones who say they want to be #1 in their field or the best golfer in the world. He doesn’t get too excited when a client says, I just want to get by, or, I just want to make the team.

The great ones start with big dreams and big goals, develop a process to reach them, and they put in the work to get it done.

“Going after big ideas takes sweat. It takes persistence, patience, and a bedrock belief in yourself. Not everyone will do it. That’s why we call it trying to be exceptional.”
— Bob Rotella

What might you miss out on because you’re comfy the way things are?

What could your career be like?

What could your marriage become?

What kind of life could you create?

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Have you ever gotten too comfortable and then regretted what you might have done? I know I have. I could have put more effort into basketball and gotten more playing time. I could’ve become a starter and even played in college. But I got comfortable, created excuses – I was too short, too slow, the coach didn’t want to play me – and I regret it to this day.

If we get too comfy with the way things are, we will never know what might have been. It’s really your decision, and neither choice is “wrong.”

Are you comfy and done trying to make things better? That can be a fine life.

Or are you comfy but willing to keep improving things for you and those you care about? What kind of extraordinary life could you create?

Which do you choose?

Don’t get too comfortable with who you are at any given time – you may miss the opportunity to become who you want to be.
–Jon Bon Jovi

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