We ask ourselves questions every day, and our brain always answers. Sometimes it’s consciously and sometimes it’s unconsciously, but it always answers. Are you asking the right questions and getting the right answers?
Have you ever asked yourself questions like these?
“Why does this always happen to me?”
“Why am I so stupid?”
If you realize how your emotions are controlling you, and stop to think logically, you know that nothing always happens to you and you aren’t stupid. You’re smart. But, if you ask yourself these questions, your brain will make up an answer. Do you really want to hear it?
So, you need to start with better questions like:
“What is my purpose?”
“What are my passions?”
“How can I start my own business?”
“What do people tell me I’m really good at?”
“What do I do when time seems to fly?”
“What can I do to serve people that will cause them to line up to give me their money?”
“What can I do to make a difference?”
“How can I have more freedom in my life?”
What are some questions you need to stop asking yourself? Write them down and then burn them.
What are some questions you need to start asking yourself? Write them down on post-it notes and put them on your mirror. Write them done on index cards and put them in your wallet. Read them every day and work on the answers.
When you ask yourself a question that really matters to you, here are three answers you should never give yourself:
1) “I don’t know.” The correct answer is, “I don’t know…yet, but I know how to find out.” Think about all the things in your business and life you didn’t use to know how to do. Not too long ago I had no idea how to write and publish a book, or how to create a blog, or how to simultaneously post on 3 social media sites, or create an automated email campaign. But, I learned how and you can learn anything you need to know.
It’s never been easier to find out how to do something. Type in “how to _____” into Google or YouTube and you have incredible information at your fingertips. From blogs, books, online courses, videos, podcasts, ebooks, and more, there is a way to find your answers.
2) “I can’t.” The correct answer is “I can figure out how to do it,” or “I can get someone else to do that for me,” or “I can do something similar instead.”
What good has “can’t” ever brought you?
3) “I don’t care.” You do care, or you wouldn’t consistently be asking yourself the same question. So why are you using that as your answer when you don’t mean it? Is it fear? Is it a belief that you can’t do it, so acting like you don’t care makes that easier to swallow? You need to figure that out so you can get to the answer you want.
- Start asking yourself questions that will get you what you want. Write them down. Ask yourself these questions every day.
- When you get an answer that resonates with you, take action immediately.
- Don’t accept the answers: I don’t know. I can’t. I don’t care.