If You Want to Change Your Life – Change Your Thoughts

Creative Thinking

Have you noticed that every time you change something in your life the change starts with how you think? You can’t do anything until you think about it first.

Go ahead and try. Do something without thinking about it.

I got you, Greg. My heart’s beating and I’m not thinking about it. I’m breathing and I’m not thinking about it.

You’re right. We do some things automatically without thinking about it. We’ll get to automatic thoughts in just a bit. But whether you want to change your behavior, your business, or your life all change starts with a change in your thinking.

Take a look around you right now. What do you see? A couch, a chair, walls, furniture, lights, windows?

Someone had to conceive of the couch you’re sitting on before the plans were made, the materials were gathered, and the work was done to make it and ship it to the store where you purchased it. Someone had to dream up the house you’re living in before it was built. I had to think of every word on this blog post in order to write it so you could read it right now.

Everything that gets done in this world begins as a thought. From the first automobile, to manned spaceflight, to the Internet, to cancer treatments, to magnificent symphonies, to Candy Crush to the awful candy – Circus Peanuts, everything had its origins in a thought. (Hey, not all of our thoughts are winners.)

The same holds true for who you are and what you do. Everything you do and everything you are begins as one of your thoughts.

A man is what he thinks about all day long.

–Ralph Waldo Emerson

You become what you think about. You become what you think about all day long. You create what you think about all day long. You develop solutions and ideas for what you think about all day long. You only change who you are and what you do, when you change what you think about and how you think about it.

What you think about leads you to who you are, who you will become, what you do, and what you will do.

That sounds fantastic and unbelievable, doesn’t it? But when have you ever made changes in your life that didn’t begin with a thought?

Obviously, we need to take action to make a change. But, you can’t act until you have created the thought that leads to the action.

Ninety percent of our thoughts are automatic. We don’t even realize we are thinking them. That’s our biggest problem with making changes. We have to change our thoughts before we can change our behavior.

So what are you thinking about all day long? Are they your original thoughts, or are they thoughts other people put in your head? Are they positive or negative thoughts? Are they helping or hurting you? What do you need to start thinking about that will help you reach your goals? When will I be done asking you questions?

A new friend of mine grew up poor. He didn’t finish high school. He told me that every time he came up with a great business idea, his first wife would tell him it wouldn’t work. She told him it was just pie in the sky thinking. It made him question himself and stopped him from taking action.

But then he started thinking differently. He decided he could and would make his ideas work. He opened a new checking account and called it his “Pie In The Sky” account. Every bit of profit he made from his new business idea would go into it. He changed the way he thought about his wife’s words. Instead of thinking she was right, he began thinking that she was wrong – and he was going to prove her wrong. He now runs a very successful company.

Stop reading right now and take some time to think about and answer each of the questions in this post. Write down the answers. It will help change your life.

(While you do that, I’m going to throw away some candy Circus Peanuts that are still in my daughters Halloween bag from last year. Does anyone like those?)

Glad you’re back. Hope you got some great answers. Remember, whatever you focus on, you will tend to get more of it. Your conscious and subconscious minds will get the message that this is important to you. They will work all day and night to help you with whatever it is you are thinking about. Isn’t that amazing?

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything.

–Gautama Siddhartha, the founder of Buddhism

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Let’s GO!

Three Questions For Your Weekend

Determine your Passionate Purpose, become world class at it, use it to serve others, and enjoy the entire ride.
–Greg Knapp

If you’re struggling to find your Passionate Purpose, or you just want more out of life, I have three questions to ask yourself this weekend.

1) What things have you done that you’re passionate about and bring you joy?

2) What things have you done that you feel have created meaning in your life?

3) What are you good, or even great at? (Or what could you become great at?)

To have this work, you need to spend some real time doing deep thinking. Start with your childhood and slowly work your way to today.

Look at every type of thing you’ve done in every category you can think of. Go DEEP.

Don’t censor yourself, or let other people’s expectations color this exercise. This is all about you.

Action steps:

  • Schedule some time by yourself. Ideally, find a quiet spot that you enjoy.
  • Turn off all electronic devices – yes that means your phone!
  • Pray or meditate on the questions
  • Keep writing answers until you have at least 10 answers to each question.
  • Then come up with 10 more
  • Look for overlapping answers
  • Narrow the answers down to your top 3

Let’s GO!

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How to Make the Right Decision Quickly

Most of our decisions are fairly easy. Many of them are automatic. But how do you make your big decisions? Most of us spend a lot of time agonizing and worrying over these. We make lists, we research on the Internet, and we ask trusted friends. And then we worry some more. Not good.

My oldest daughter has been accepted to the BFA in Acting program at two of her favorite universities. She has a deadline to decide which school she will attend and she’s having difficulty making the decision.

This is a bit of a pattern with her. She wants to make sure she’s making the “right” decision.

Good news: She researches and looks at all the possible outcomes of her decision.
Bad news: This can lead to the dreaded paralysis by analysis, worry, anxiety, and frustration.

Here are some secrets to help you, and my daughter, make the right decision faster.

Most of the time a quick decision is your best decision:
Lots of research and several books have been written about how our quick hunch, gut, or blink decisions are usually best.

Our bodies are great at using our memories, experiences, and beliefs to help us make the right call. Our “intuition” helps us figure out patterns and sift through factors in ways we aren’t even aware of consciously. One study showed participants started betting correctly on a card game before they even consciously understood how the game worked.

Pretty cool.

One caveat – sometimes we need to slow down:
Our quick, almost unconscious, gut decisions are tied heavily to our emotions and sometimes our emotions fool us. My daughter could fall in love with the resort style dorm and pool in Florida. She could mistake that feeling for her gut telling her to choose that school. Whoops.

Quite often there is no “right” decision:
My daughter really likes both of these schools and their programs. They both have great opportunities for her. Regardless of which one she chooses she will learn a lot, become an even better actress, have a head start on her career, and have fun. There is no right or wrong decision to make.

You can support or undermine your decision:
Once you’ve made your decision you can support it by never looking back and focusing on all the good that is coming your way, or you can worry about what you could be missing if you’d chosen differently.

My daughter can throw her self into her classes, put in her best effort, make friends, audition for shows, and make the most of every opportunity at her new college.

Or, she can dismiss all the good in her decision, mope around, think of all the things she’s missing at the school she didn’t choose and be miserable. It’s her choice.

Bottom Line – Use a Mix of Your Gut and Your Logical Brain:
For the big decisions ask yourself, what do think is best? Then immediately right down the answer.

Then, go ahead and do your due diligence – research, write your pro and con list, talk to someone you trust, pray about it, sleep on it, and then decide.

Once you’ve decided, don’t look back. Make the decision work. You’ll be surprised how well it works out and how quickly your worry and anxiety fade away.

Let’s GO!

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