How do you feel when you get a real thank you? I’m not talking about a “thanks” for holding the door or passing the ketchup, or a perfunctory thanks for meeting/doing business with me. Those are all fine, but how do you feel when you get a sincere thank you? How do you feel when someone looks you in the eye with meaning, gives you a firm handshake – or even a hug – and says, “I really want to thank you for what you did. It means a lot to me and I’ll never forget it.”? How do you feel when someone hand writes you a heart felt message and a “Thank You” on personal stationary? Awesome, right?
“A sincere ‘thank you’ can change the day – even the life – of the receiver and the giver. Who do you need to thank today?” —Greg Knapp
A sincere, “thank you” creates an emotional bond between both parties. It encourages the person you’re thanking. It let’s them know they count in this world, they’re making a difference, and they touched your life. It also makes you feel better, elevates relationships, and often leads to more business (bonus!).
So why don’t we do it more?
We’re busy. We rationalize that the other person knows we appreciate them and doesn’t care if we say thank you anyway. We don’t know how to say it. It’s too much trouble.
All wrong. The effect a thank you has makes it imperative that we say it often — and with feeling.
In answer to what we tell ourselves: Everyone’s busy, The other person doesn’t know how you feel unless you tell them. They do care. Just say what you feel. It’s not too much trouble. It adds joy to life.
I think there’s one other reason we don’t say thank you enough…It can be scary.
When you admit that you needed someone’s help, or you couldn’t have done it with out them, or you care about someone you are making yourself vulnerable.
Being vulnerable does open you up to being hurt, but it also opens you up to deeper relationships and bigger opportunities.
Which will you choose?
Questions for comments: Who are you going to sincerely thank today? What happened when you did?